I think the one thing about putting yourself out there again is learning how to trust again. How do I let someone new in, let alone trust someone new, when I still haven’t healed from the hurt caused by the last person I let in?
I don’t.
Learning to open up and trust again is possibly one of the most annoying things ever, especially if you’re as lazy as I am because it requires WORK. Not only does it require work but it requires you to be very open and honest with yourself.
I am very guilty of tricking myself into believing I am over someone when in all honestly I’m not. Lol, and then the messed up part is that I’d be hurting nobody but myself by doing that. I always try by all means to be as honest and open with myself in the healing process because I am such a firm believer that if you do something right the first time, you don’t have to go back to it again and start all over.
I’ve been single and by myself for a while now and it has really given me time to let go and try to move on, BOY has it been a difficult time, lol but I am so happy with where I am right now and the progress that I have made. My biggest obstacle at the moment? Is learning how to allow someone new in my life again, purely because I have become very protective and aware of my personal space, the people around me and the energy that they bring.
Now, being protective and aware makes you very paranoid at times because you start seeing things that aren’t even there and it tends to get a little bit lonely because you’re so closed off. Change of behavior and ways of interacting have been two of the many things that have helped me in learning how to seek out the good from the bad and really just keep positive energy around me.
In my recent interactions and meeting new people I started noticing that I always prepare for the worst case scenario, I already expect to be disappointed by that particular person and after reflecting on this I realized that I can’t always expect the worst from someone because it only ever paints a bad image of that particular person, now I’m not saying ignore the negatives about a person but don’t only pay attention to them alone.
Allowing someone new into your life requires you to not let the past dictate how you should now treat them. Yes, take the lessons learnt and let those lessons help you but do not let them be a defining or controlling factor.
I hope you find the courage to move on, to allow yourself to love and be loved, most importantly to be able to trust again. I know I have found that courage and I couldn’t be happier.
I love you and thank you for reading x